Friday Flotsam


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Okay so tomorrow’s December, but doesn’t it feel like we’ve all been Christmasing already for 35 entire months?

I’m telling you, it’s because Thanksgiving was so early this year! (yes I’m still talking about this.) I think it was three days earlier than in past years, so errrrrrberdy threw their dang tree up (myself included) and decked our faces off one millisecond post Turkey (or cornish hen, hello they were out-of-this-universe delicious) and WE STILL HAVE ALL MONTH.

You’re like, “Wait, does she think this is a good thing or a bad thing?”

Oh it’s good! I think.

I do love it! For the most part.

I mean, I do! If I can take little breaks.

Never from Cousin Eddie, though.

Tell me what’s on your Christmas list. Because hi, we all know that’s the obvious reason we’re all here.

brunch at buvette

You guys, I need help.

No, no – I got the navy blazer a long time ago!

This is big. And I need major guidance. Or talking down from the ledge. Or rosé. Verdict’s still out. (OH SPEAKING OF, I GOT CALLED BACK TO JURY DUTY IN MID JANUARY SINCE MINE WAS CANCELLED. That’s all.)

Okay, parents of preschoolers with kids born in the winter – what the snow do you do for birthday parties? We’ve never had an official PARTY for our kids (I avoid at all costs), but now that they’ve been to a few of their classmates’ parties, we’re effing doomed.

First of all, to throw a party at one of those hideous indoor playground death traps is like a billion dollars. So, no. Secondly, I’m not inviting 16 small children (and their parents) to my house in early January and be cramped and smelly with sticky fingers inside for two hours. No.

So like, how does one throw a simple winter party without wanting to stab everyone and everything?

I feel like I might have a loop hole, though. THEY ALREADY HAVE A BIRTHDAY PARTY AT SCHOOL. With all their little sticky friends. That’s what they want! Can’t I just throw a simple afternoon soirée at home with a few friends, my giant white balloon (I’ll never not do that), some chocolate cake, rosé and call it good?

Just say yes.

But if I can’t, would you preeeetty please give me simple winter birthday party ideas!? I know you’ve got ’em.

Thank you and goodbye.


Just kidding about the goodbye.


Is it great? Should I watch it?

I asked my IG Stories peeps this same question, and you wouldn’t believe just how divided the responses were. There are basically two camps: BORING AND SLOW. And FASCINATING AND SPECTACULAR.

Guys, those are like, two different planets of camps. How can that even be?!

I think I’ll watch two episodes and then decide.

Because it’s Julia.

Oh! Also, I heard Julie and Julia (different Julia) is on Netflix! I love that movie so hard. Makes me want to eat bruschetta. OR COBB SALAD.

Just thinking out loud, ignore me.

So no to Homecoming? Or yes?

Yes to bruschetta? Yes.

union station ceiling


After much internal turmoil due to time, too many carbs, a bad eyebrow day and the straight up impossibility of outdoing last year, I’ve decided toooooo……..


You’re like, oh.

This is the thing. There will never be a better Christmas playlist than what I gave you last year (why yes I’m tooting my own horn). And the year before (still tootin’). Because you can’t create new vintage. The end.

But! I am going to give you a softer, folksier mix, specific for softer, folksier times. Because we all have softer, folksier times in our lives, apparently. You’ll see. Coming this Sunday, my little elves.

…too far?

snowy tree

Weekend plans?

Today I’m headed to the craft store to select my ribbons for all my present wrapping. You know I LIKE A GOOD WRAPPING THEME. Obviously it stays neutral, but I want tiny pops of soft greens and pale coppers. A lot like last year! And like, all the dead limbs from my yard.

And then I’ll bug Aaron to hang our garland and lights on our front entryway, ignore the buried grunting and sing FA LA LA LA LAAA LA LA LA LAL ALL AL AAAAAA super loud in his ear the entire time.

Can’t wait!!

Tell me what you’re having for dinner.


18 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. Janice November 30, 2018 at 8:15 am #
    Our two children were also winter babies - they both arrived in February but two years and four days apart. This meant two parties in one week except for one year when we combined them for the simplest party ever. We went tobogganing. Parents and children met at the toboggan hill and we played for quite awhile, followed by hot chocolate and cake back at our place. No mess, no fuss. It really was easy and the kids loved it!
  2. Anonymous November 30, 2018 at 8:57 am #
    Your kid is in preschool- which is really young! Definitely the school party will be enough for all those school kids. Just have something smaller at home with family and one or two friends. For YEARS we did the "invite as many kids as your age" rule. Also- remember0 if you invite 16 kids you will end up with 16 presents which is Way Too Many!
    • Bev Weidner November 30, 2018 at 9:12 am #
      AGREED, 100%! I just needed to hear (er, read) someone say it. Whew!
  3. Anonymous number 2 November 30, 2018 at 9:53 am #
    For my 2yo we are going to rent out a party room at the children’s museum and all kids and parents get free admission for the museum for the whole day. Kind of like an elaborate play date. For my 5yo we are going to Disney world ???
  4. Ashley November 30, 2018 at 10:12 am #
    You can't just watch 2 episodes of Homecoming, because the first 5 are kind of boring and slow! Overall it's not the best show I've ever watched, but still enjoyed it in the end! Currently pregnant with our first child and hate. kids. birthday. parties. Will be interested to see what people suggest as I would like to avoid them as long as I can. :)
  5. Dana November 30, 2018 at 10:20 am #
    What is that deliciousness in the picture by the rose? My goodness!
  6. Darcy November 30, 2018 at 10:38 am #
    We let our January toddler take 1 friend to do an “experience birthday “. This year we’re going to the zoo, last year we went to an indoor fun gym and lunch. They don’t need big parties - and I like the “number of friends invited equals their age” advice above.
  7. Toni November 30, 2018 at 11:00 am #
    Homecoming...slow & fascinating...the ending...thought about it for days...glad I watched it...
  8. Nancy November 30, 2018 at 11:37 am #
    In the same vein as the party at the kids museum, a guy I used to work with told me they had his son's b'day party at McDonald's one year and told me after that, he had a newfound respect for McDonald's; you just show up and leave when it's over. Personally, I don't eat at McD's anymore but that's just an example. Surely there are other places that do kids' parties. I also like the suggestion of number of kids per age but you have two the same age so maybe not a good idea for you. And when my kid was growing up, they had a rule at school, if you invite one classmate you have to invite them all........I am glad those days are over for me because I NEVER want to go back to Chuck E Cheese!!!!!!! Or have a house full of sticky, dirty kids. That's all!
  9. CJ | A Well-Read Tart November 30, 2018 at 11:54 am #
    I rushed to put up all my Christmas decor the weekend after Thanksgiving, and I've been telling people "I don't know, I just don't feel like I'm ready for Christmas yet" in a very flustered and sad voice. Until my friend one replied, "That's okay, because you have A MONTH before Christmas." Um, wow, yeah. Look at that. Why did I feel like Christmas was immediately, like, the day after Thanksgiving?? (Thanks, American commercialism). Whenever I start to feel myself stressing about holiday stuff, I remind myself that it's not even December yet, and I have three-almost-four glorious weeks until The Big Day. So, enjoy each day as it comes. And, bask in the glow of the Christmas tree that already happens to be up. :-D
  10. Leslie November 30, 2018 at 12:09 pm #
    My daughter is now 8 and her birthday is in June. Even with nice weather I do not want a house/ yard filled with kids and parents I'm not familiar with. My daughter has a few friends outside of school and it is always a given that only those friends are invited over for her birthday. I know the parents so we get to have our adult time and the kids get to play everyone plays with everyone because there's not an overload of kids and presents are kept to a minimum which for me is key. It is the way it's always been so she doesn't expect anything different. She still gets invited to her classmates birthday parties and I just look at it from the angle that it's those parents choice to do that. I don't feel obligated to do the same.
  11. Emily of The Three Bite Rule November 30, 2018 at 1:13 pm #
    I've been curious when my about-to-be-4-year-old will notice we go to parties but haven't had one other than our local family. January is just tough. I hoped we could have a "meet to go sledding then drink some hot chocolate before you leave" kind of thing. Parties you don't bring a gift to are the very best kind!
  12. Amber | Loves Food, Loves to Eat November 30, 2018 at 1:55 pm #
    HOMECOMING IS SO GOOD! I didn't think it was slow and boring at all! Do you like Mr. Robot? Bc it's the same director, and is very similar in terms of style and pace. Also the episodes are like 30 min each (for a drama thriller, revolutionary!), so you whiz thru the season in no time! I finished it in like 3 nights, and wanted more. Re: kids parties, I read somewhere that, aside from the basic costs of keeping a kid alive and fed and clothed, hosting bday parties and buying gifts for other kids parties is quickly becoming one of the top expenses for parents! Of course I have no source, so take it with a grain of salt :).
  13. Brknopf November 30, 2018 at 1:58 pm #
    Do you have Michaels craft stores? They do very cheap parties and are fun for kids. They set up the room, handle the craft that you select, etc. We have done several bc the crafts can change with the age of the kids.
  14. Betsy Pollastrini December 1, 2018 at 6:44 am #
    I wouldn’t say a big party with their entire class is necessary yet, but if you need an idea, we’ve been to a pottery painting place-the hosts paid chose 3 inexpensive items that the kids could choose to paint and it was a lot of fun.
  15. rosemarie December 4, 2018 at 3:42 pm #
    My son just turned 6 and is in kindergarten so we have been invited to numerous bouncy castle/arcade/crazy parties. His birthday falls right after Thanksgiving and I'm letting him invite over a few friends (whose parents we know well) for pizza and movie night (which we normally do every Friday night). The parents can have some wine and chat while the kids run around/then chill for a movie. I probably will throw a big party in the future, but I don't want to spend that kind of ridiculous money every year and I don't want a ton of presents. I don't want him to think these things are realistic expectations.
    • Bev Weidner December 5, 2018 at 6:43 am #
      I 100% agree with you! And I'm so glad you guys have vocalized what was in my head. Now I can go back to my original, stress-free chill plans for their birthday. No party yet. :) Thank you!
  16. Denita December 7, 2018 at 12:14 pm #
    Kid's birthday are voicing my daughter is too young to care...she had a big 1st birthday and then 2nd was a small family only and most couldn't make it...she didn't know or care...thankfully. While I want my daughter to have friends and be well-liked (who doesn't want that for their kid) kids parties are the worst and I will put it off for as long as I possibly can. If your kids aren't begging for a party then I wouldn't worry about having one for their classmates outside of school.

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