Friday Flotsam


farmer's market strawberries

How are you with honking?

I don’t mean like, what does it look like when your hand lays on the horn. More like, do you honk? Is honking something you’re into? Are you a breezy honker? (“You can’t say you’re breezy! It negates the breezy!”)

I can’t honk. I can’t do it. Even when I NEED to honk in a time of stress and almost being run over, I can’t find the honker! I panic! I think it’s because over the years the honker has been in different places on the steering wheels, and I can’t remember where it is on the Subaru. It’s right in the middle, okay. You’re right. (“You’re right, you’re right. I know you’re right.”)

More than that though, I just hate it! My kids are always like, “Mom, honk!” when we’re casually driving down the street. And I’m like, “NO WAY, FREAKS. IT SENDS A MESSAGE.”

It totally does. I can’t handle it. Because no MATTER what message you’re trying to send, it’s unnerving. Stressful. “Why did he honk? What did I do? Is he honking at me? THAT SON OF A BI…” When the honker was mostly likely all Gomer Pyle-style friendly chirping, “Howdy! Your window boxes are lookin’ good! Enjoy your day and lives!”

No. I cannot honk.

Don’t honk at me. I’m fragile.

feet and tile


On the 4th of July it poured poured poured, so our group of friends spent hours and hours under a big front porch with ’90s hip hop, canned wine and party snaps. It was actually the most charming 4th I’ve had.

This question was asked, which sent us down a total rabbit hole of memories and movie quotes. So now I shall ask you, and I want you to seriously tell me. Seriously. And think hard.

What’s the one movie you stop and watch in its entirety if it’s randomly on T.V.?

There were a lot of Robocop-type answers floating around on that porch. Guys I have no idea what’s happening to my friends. Mine’s Dirty Dancing, obviously. If it’s on, I have to watch the rest of it. No question.

What’s yours?

bench and flowers

SPEAKING OF. We talked about this maybe two years ago, but I’m in need once again of advice.

(surprise surprise)

My sister and fam are coming up next weekend for a summer cousin/sister/bro-in-law hang, so we’re obviously having an outdoor movie night. (you know this is my summer obsession) But our old vintage-y projector went KAPUT, so I need a new, up-to-date one! “Projeeeect!” -said like Alicia Silverstone in Clueless. I’m all over Amazon, but do any of you have movie projector tips on the best brand? I know this is annoying. AT LEAST I’M NOT HONKING AT YOU.

While we’re on the subject – what should we watch!? Something fun, lighthearted, kid friendly. And maybe a little older. So like, Reservoir Dogs?

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In case you only pop in once a week for Friday Flotsams, I wanted to make sure you don’t miss my official book club post from yesterday. Lots and lots of you voted YAS, GURL to the series, so dunchew meez eet, hon!

ALSO, I think I’ve narrowed down five possibilities for our in-person Book Club meetup on Sept 12th. Things may change, and I’ll definitely announce by August 1st, but tell me if any of these would be coo.

The Silent Patient

The Most Fun We Ever Had

The Proposal

This is How it Always Is

The Lying Game

Cast your vote! But don’t honk at me.


Weekend plans?

It’s going to be 976 degrees. Yay?

My plans are simple: backyard pool hang with the gremlins, farmer’s market, Russian sage plantings, rosé, grilled chicken with saffron rice, rosé, two book club recaps on IG (promise they’re coming!), starting The Cactus, rosé, watching a movie (Always Be My Maybe looks hilarious), and rosé.

But no honking. Don’t even try it.

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29 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. J July 19, 2019 at 8:00 am #
    Just a word re the Russian Sage. It is invasive and will grow little trails all over underground and come up everywhere. I love it but it was too invasive, and then very hard to get rid of.
    • Bev Weidner July 19, 2019 at 8:18 am #
      Ah thank you! I actually don't mind. We have a spot out front in our landscaping that is bare and hideous. If it takes off, even better! (I appreciate the tip.:))
  2. Stephanie July 19, 2019 at 10:10 am #
    Mean Girls and The Devil Wears Prada
    • Carolyn July 19, 2019 at 2:46 pm #
      Dirty Dancing is also the movie that I'll almost always stop and watch. I think a couple of movies that you could watch outside with adults and children are Farther of he Bride or maybe Parent Trap. I'm trying to think back to movies that my kids enjoyed that didn't make me want to yank out my hair and I thought were kind of cute. I don't have any projector recommendations though. Enjoy your time wth your company!
  3. Sharon July 19, 2019 at 10:44 am #
    Jurassic Park and Elf are the two movies randomly watched every time we come across them!
  4. Sabrina July 19, 2019 at 10:46 am #
    Garden State for the adults. Willy Wonka and the Chocolate for the kids...and adults.
    • Sabrina July 19, 2019 at 12:03 pm #
      *Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
      • Andrea E July 19, 2019 at 10:54 pm #
        Goonies- (forever and ever the best!!)
  5. Jennifer C. July 19, 2019 at 11:26 am #
    The Borne Identity (and of the trilogy). But now I want to watch Reservoir Dogs again!
  6. wallawallamama July 19, 2019 at 12:48 pm #
    Always rewatch from any point at which I find it: Overboard (the original with Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell.
    • Anonymous July 19, 2019 at 7:57 pm #
      Hey! Another walla Wallan!
  7. brandy utter July 19, 2019 at 1:35 pm #
    Have you read Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close? The protagonist (kid) in the book has a brilliant idea that I would really love to implement : cars with flashing signs so drivers could communicate in a (kinder) way, like "trying to get to the ER,." I'm not exactly sure how it would work, but I love the idea. It (could) help us to learn to give the benefit of the doubt. Instead, I just lay on my horn when indicated :) I will never not watch You've Got Mail. I really want to watch Wild Hearts Can't Be Broken on the outdoor screen this summer. Haven't talked the husband into it yet.
  8. Lori S July 19, 2019 at 1:54 pm #
    Movies: not sure I can name just one! The Family Stone, Definitely, Maybe, Devil Wears Prada immediately come to mind!
  9. Shay July 19, 2019 at 2:19 pm #
    I am almost done with The Most Fun We Ever Had and it’s so good!!! The Silent Patient was also a good fun read and This Is How It Always Is was a hit in our book club.
    • Bev Weidner July 20, 2019 at 8:15 am #
      Okay great! So basically I can't go wrong with any of them. Yay!
  10. Meredith C July 19, 2019 at 2:34 pm #
    def dirty dancing, you've got mail and notting hill!
  11. Carolyn July 19, 2019 at 2:48 pm #
    Dirty Dancing is also the movie that I'll almost always stop and watch. I think a couple of movies that you could watch outside with adults and children are Farther of he Bride or maybe Parent Trap. I'm trying to think back to movies that my kids enjoyed that didn't make me want to yank out my hair and I thought were kind of cute. I don't have any projector recommendations though. Enjoy your time wth your company!
  12. Sara July 19, 2019 at 7:57 pm #
    Interested in your projector suggestions and i will always watch Shag...and A Few Good Men (I CAN handle the truth it seems) As for book club, The Most Fun We Ever Had has my vote just from the title
    • Bev Weidner July 20, 2019 at 8:14 am #
      We ended up ordering this one! I'll test it out Sunday night to see if it's pimp. :)
  13. Mimi July 19, 2019 at 8:31 pm #
    Ideas for a movie: Big, Honey I Shrunk the Kids, The Sandlot, ET, The Wizard of Oz, Annie.
    • Bev Weidner July 20, 2019 at 8:13 am #
      I literally had all those in the list of suggestions to my sister! We landed on NeverEnding Story. :)
  14. Barb July 19, 2019 at 9:39 pm #
    50 First Dates and Ghost! For Drama is Spy Game...who can resist Robert Redford or Brad Pitt!
  15. Mandi July 20, 2019 at 2:36 am #
    Bridesmaids and Julie & Julia. Also, I think horns should have different tones. Like, and angry, aggressive sounding tone, one that sounds like a bicycle horn, etc. They can be labeled with emojis.
  16. Krysten July 22, 2019 at 9:50 am #
    Fried Green Tomatoes, Steel Magnolias, and A League of Their Own
  17. Kari July 23, 2019 at 8:38 pm #
    Father of the Bride 1 and 2, It's Complicated (Meryl has my ultimate dream kitchen), 10 things I hate About you, Devil Wears Prada
  18. saumya bhargava July 24, 2019 at 4:04 am #
    Amazing ……. well written..
  19. Cindy July 24, 2019 at 11:27 am #
    Definitely Dirty Dancing and The Break Up
  20. Sue July 25, 2019 at 12:27 pm #
    I'm a honker. Occasionally it's b/c someone is dangerously weaving through traffic and nearly causing accidents...not that they care what I think. More often, I have given a little "hey there" beep when someone is on their phone or digging through their purse at a newly-green light and some people go bonkers as if I just rear-ended them. If you don't want me to beep at you, then pay attention. When I get those beeps, I always feel like "busted, I was drinking around", give them a wave as I do get moving, and go about my day. I'll end the way I started. I'm a honker.
  21. Amanda July 26, 2019 at 7:02 pm #
    This Is How It Always Is! Mostly because I’ve already read it and I’m ready to discuss. I live close and would love to come to your meet up!

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