Friday Flotsam



So we need to talk. Real talk. Life talk. Serious stuff. Woman to woman. Er, fingertips to eyeballs.

Can we talk about neck masks?

Now before you roll your eyes all, “BEV YOU MUST ACCEPT THE WHOLE TIME CONTINUUM THING” – no. I mean yes. Yes it’s there. Yes I (sort of) accept it. But I do feel like there’s wiggle room. A little space to play. A bit of an in-your-40s-playground! Is this making sense? No? Okay.

Tell me your favorite neck masks. Because in less than three weeks we’re filming season three of a show that rhymes with Slom Mins and I need neck masks. Or else I can’t watch the show. I know they don’t fix everything, but is there a certain brand that you swear by? I remember wearing one on set of Pressure Point last fall, and it was INTAAAAYANSE. But I can’t remember the brand. Maybe I’ll text my hair and makeup girl and get back to you.

Talk to me. Let’s neck! Wait that came out wrong.

tortilla pizza

AND okay. While we’re on the subject: do those Crest strip thingies reeeeeally work? Or is it all hog wash? What’s the BEST thing you’ve used on your toofies (sorry) that gets ’em pearly white, without having to drink the bleach in your basement.

And I don’t need to look like Ross Geller. (although how much fun would that be?) I just need a soft white with a pinch of warmth, zero florescent and a natural pearl-like essence similar to when Ariel from the Little Mermaid becomes a human and gets her voice back. Just like that. But I’m not overthinking it or anything.

Okay and what about the best eye drops???? Just kidding.

I think.

lazia dining

I’m realizing this post is basically me asking you all the things, as I lead into this next pathetic section.

Okay, car booster seats. Or is it booster seats. Booster car seats. I know we have one last round of seats for the gremlins. And I know the best thing FOR them is to keep them in these regular car seats until they’re 35 years old. But ish is getting cramped, man!

When did you transition? It’s mostly based on height and weight, is that right? I also know lots of people say it’s when they hit kindergarten, which is like, in 20 minutes for us.

My MAIN question (besides the neck masks and teeth whitening and eye drops – WHAT. Apparently I really need you guys today.) – what brand of boosters are good? I haven’t even googled this at all, seriously. I was putting it off until after Oregon, but then I figured I’d go ahead and ask, just to get the seed planted and rooted in my noggin. On top of that it gave me the chance to type the word noggin.

You know me – I need simple and stylish. And eye drops. Like I can’t stop thinking about eye drops all of a sudden.


Okay I’m doing my window boxes this weekend and I need your color opinion. I’ve got purple hearts going in, and I’m thinking of a basic greenery on either side (like a cascading ivy) and then alyssum all mixed in! So like, deep purple, green and white. I like that. Subtle and delicate, but strong, like a woman arm wrestler.

Maybe I didn’t need you after all! Except for the neck masks, teeth whitening, eye drops and booster seats thing. It’s fine.

dinner at lazia

Weekend plans?

It’s GETTING NICE TOMORROW! Today is upper 50s and cloudy, but dude. Tomorrow and Sunday: bright and sunny with temps in the low 70s. I could cry thinking about it.

Oh – last night I finished The Wife Between Us, so I’ll be on Stories later today with a recap (and on here later this month!). Today I’m starting Daisy Jones and the Six – based on your heavy recommends. Super excited. Maybe I’ll squirt in some new fancy eye drops right before reading!

Yes I’m still on the eye drops thing.

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25 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. Jessica May 3, 2019 at 10:07 am #
    Booster seats - buy a 3-in-1 that goes from 5 point harness to high back belt positioning booster to just the seat. We use a Graco Nautilus 65 that could be used with the 5pt harness until 65lbs, which my off-the-charts kindergartener just sized out of. Now she uses it as a high back booster with the car's belt. It looks more like a big kid seat and is less cramped than the rear to forward facing convertible, and its easier to climb into. The Carseat Lady and Car Seats for the Littles are both great reference websites.
    • Bev Weidner May 3, 2019 at 1:02 pm #
      Thaaaank you!
      • Joy May 3, 2019 at 3:31 pm #
        I work in a dentist office and we use Crest White strips. But the ones you buy at the dentist. Not Walmart. They are a little stronger(not fluorescent) than regular store ones. If you have sensitive gums at all I would just do them every other day. You put them on an hour a day and no wine😬 or coffee/tea after using them for I think 3 hours. I always do them before bed(but don’t fall asleep with them in😜). I’ve done that too😏.
  2. T May 3, 2019 at 10:41 am #
    Yes, the Crest Whitestrips work! Costco often has them on sale.
  3. Elizabeth Lubin May 3, 2019 at 10:45 am #
    Best eyedrops ever - Lumify by Bausch & Lomb! They have some new magic that just got approved by the FDA and they are seriously way better than regular eyedrops. I've been using them over 6 months and no weird side effects whatsoever and they still work just as well as the first time I tried them. The drops don't even sting, they just wipe out all the red and give you nice bright eyes in about one minute. They are more expensive than regular eyedrops but totally worth it.
  4. Jenny May 3, 2019 at 10:52 am #
    Ditto to the nautilus. It takes care of all your needs until they’re done with car seats.
  5. Emily of The Three Bite Rule May 3, 2019 at 1:34 pm #
    I cheaped out on the tooth whitening strips getting the liners? trays? whatever was next to the white strips name brand. Let me tell you, 30 minutes feels like forever with them in. I shower and do all the things to forget about them, but I hate them.They feel like thinner mouth guards and the regular strips would have been better. I wondered about eye drops lately since my eyes haven't looked the same since baby #2 is born so I'm loving your suggestions!
  6. Meredith Dempsey May 3, 2019 at 2:17 pm #
    Crest White Strips for the win! So great, definitely try them. Also I’m super excited about the Lumify eye drop recommendation as well! Love this beautiful, uplifting, and supportive community you’ve created, Bev! ❤️
    • Bev Weidner May 3, 2019 at 2:42 pm #
      Honestly, you saying this has made my ENTIRE day. I can't thank you enough for vocalizing this! So much of the time, I post, share, blab on and on and wonder who it effects, what sort of positive rays I can boom out, and if it makes any difference at all. So the fact that you view this space as an uplifting community SERIOUSLY makes me beam. Thank you for sharing this! I'll shut up now.
      • Stef May 4, 2019 at 9:22 am #
        whenever you wonder, know it makes a big difference. I'm really glad you are you.
      • Meredith Dempsey May 4, 2019 at 6:37 pm #
        Definitely makes a difference! I consistently look forward to your blog posts, Instagram stories, pics, recipes, etc-love your sense of humor and genuine personality. I know if I met you in person you’d be exactly as you are in your posts ☺️ Also, can’t wait to follow your adventures this summer in Oregon!
  7. kb May 3, 2019 at 4:15 pm #
    I need to know more about neck masks p&ty. And I'd read an entire blog post reviewing 47 of them. 41 is not a nice number (she says the day after her eye doctor told her that she may be ready for reading glasses). Inquiring minds would like to know.
  8. Nicole May 3, 2019 at 6:02 pm #
    I have no neck mask recs, but am VERY interested in what others may reply......but I love the Visine dry eye drops (purple label) which I put in at night before I go to bed-prevents watering eyes in the morning....Cheers to Friday!!
    • Amanda May 3, 2019 at 6:15 pm #
      Senegence just released a firming and lifting neck cream. So not a mask but a fantastic cream. People are seeing results in just a week’s time. I can hook you up if you need ;) My son had the booster with the high back when he was 5 and then we took the back off and it’s just the booster when he was like 6 1/2. Pretty sure ours is from EvenFlo.
  9. Carly May 3, 2019 at 6:53 pm #
    The Lumify eye drops are amazing! Bright eyes in just a few minutes!
  10. Gina May 3, 2019 at 8:01 pm #
    I've been happy with our diono Monterey, they are solid large quality seats. Doesn't sound like you'd benefit from a 3 in 1 since you're trying to get them out of a 5 point Harness. The Monterey also becomes a regular booster (from a high back) so it should suit you until they are done with seats altogether.
  11. Sara Sherida. May 3, 2019 at 8:40 pm #
    Ok. Eye drops. I use them every morning. My eyes are always red until I pop some magical drops into them. I tried the lumifiy and for the price, they didn’t blow my hair back.they were OK but nothing super special. I went back to my ride or die rohto eye drops. They are seriously the best. We use a high back graco booster for my 5yr old. The back can come off and it can become a booster. Nice cream and black colors. Great safety rating and simple in design. Im currently using a college mask on my face and usually rub the excess gooo onto my neck but I’d be down for doing a neck mask!!!
  12. Jane May 3, 2019 at 10:28 pm #
    I know nothing about present day baby stuff--except that its a lot different from when I had babies!! I have molds made by my dentist. I buy the syringes of peroxide (not bleach) and its much stronger than anything over the counter--even Crest White Strips. I use them everyday for a week and then do the process again about 4 months later. The problem with strips are that they don't adhere to teeth that are not perfect and they also don't get in-between as well. Another thing I found was a pen that dispenses the peroxide. You can 'paint" it on the front and back and in-between the teeth. I found it at Ulta. its called Smile---something! lol! You can use it once a day, don't eat or drink anything for 20 minutes and you don't have to rinse it out. I love it for touchups between the molds. Eyes---definitely Lumify. It gets the whites of your eyes and your lower lid, and having allergies, that really perks up the look of my eyes. Good luck, Bev! Jane
  13. Mollie May 4, 2019 at 7:58 am #
    I’m so addicted to the lumify eye drops. Game changer. My eyes are so red and veiny looking without them! Makes me look much more awake! Also a fan of crest white strips! Use the sensitive teeth kind bc the regular make my teeth hurt a little!
  14. Sara May 4, 2019 at 8:45 am #
    I just got the Chicco MyFit car seat and love it!
  15. Chelsea H May 4, 2019 at 12:52 pm #
    I super love the Refresh eyedrops! They come in little disposable applicators - I keep one in my purse! Super handy, especially during an allergy season attack! Also, Arbonne’s Re9 neck cream is really good. I had a couple really deep lines on my neck and it firmed and made the lines seemingly less apparent. Highly suggest their skincare! I love the re9 anti-aging line overall.
  16. kim May 5, 2019 at 1:38 pm #
    bev, i can't find the blog where you menioned the splinter, but there is a product called Hylands smile PRID it's a homeopathic drawing salve that works great. Comes in a little flat orangeish box. In my area it can be found at cvs, walmart and most health food stores. Hope this helps. And if i remembered the wrong blog site i apologize. But it's always good for future reference!! kim
  17. Emily May 6, 2019 at 10:33 am #
    I am all in on thanking you for making this Uplifiting Community. I agree wholeheartedly with those gals!! Keep up the awesome work, Bev. As for booster seats, I recommend the Mi-fold Grab and Go Booster: It looks totally different from everything else, but it is so sleek and simple and totally works. Brings the belt down to them, and nestles them into the seat, instead of lifting them up. My 5yo is a tiny little thing, and she has no trouble at all with it. We have 5 of them spread out among grandparents and babysitters and us. I don't use a neck cream or mask. But my mom always said "Moisturize your neck. Ya never know when it's gonna be your face!" hahahahahahaha.... Have a great week!

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