Friday Flotsam


Friday Flotsam / Bev Cooks

I think I’m watching too much Seinfeld. Last night I dreamed (wait, dreamt? is that right? hold on let me look it up. okay it’s right, but it’s weird. dreamt.) about the crew, as if they were my crew. And I wanted them to be my crew! We were all at this gigantic restaurant with different levels. Some levels were under ground and looked like an old Irish pub, and the levels in the sky had glass walls with big, lush gardens on the outside. Anyway anyway, so Elaine takes a photo of Jerry with a bunch of old coffee grounds in my wide-open mouth, and posts it on a dating site! Hahahaha! HAHAHAHA. HAHAH-wait, was it coffee grounds? Or chocolate ice cream with a mushed up brownie in it?

So Jerry gets SUPER angry, his voice going all high like, “Why did you doooo that? Why would you doooo that? Now they’re going to call me gravel mouth! This is all your fauuuuult!” And Kramer and I just sat over in the corner and laughed our faces off. Then Kramer hopped up all jittery out of his chair, pointed his enormous arm at Elaine and yelped, “I told you it was the right thing to do! I told you! You’ll make him a star, that Jerry!”

Except George didn’t think it was that funny. I can’t remember why. I think all the restaurant levels freaked him out, like he was going to fall into the abyss or something.

. . . yeah, I’m pretty sure it was coffee grounds.

Friday Flotsam / Bev Cooks

So, I have a bit of news, and I wouldn’t necessarily call it bad news, just. . . life news. My husband got laid off from his job a little over three weeks ago (hello, panic attack). So we’ve been in the process of reinventing our life journey (all the meltdowns), how to make an income (besides put the babies up on Ebay), what do we do from here (hold me), yadda yadda YADDA.

In all honesty, I’m holding it together pretty well. Aaron’s an incredible writer, a brilliant conceptor, an insanely talented maker, and is as clever as they come. We’ll be fine. We’re staying positive and know that whatever comes our way will be amazing. He’s giving full-time freelance a go, so if you need him, holla back, y’all. Annnnnd, remember that little Etsy store I mentioned a few weeks ago? This time next week, baes. Boom.

So, lots of life change lately. Which brings me to a little game I’d like to call . . .

Friday Flotsam / Bev Cooks

Worth It Or No? 

* Dental insurance: I’ve always had it. But (knock on ALL the wood) haven’t really ever had teeth problems. Aaron just had all his major work done, so do you think it’s worth the whatever $$ a month, or just pay for the $150 cleaning twice a year? We go back and forth. The babies won’t need it until they’re, what, three? I guess my question is, if I fall down and hit my face on the pavement and break out all my teeth, is that a dental insurance thing or a health insurance thing? I feel like I’d go to the ER immediately and not wait to call my dentist about it, so would my regular health insurance be what I used for my stint at the plastic surgeon’s office? I mean hospital? You’re like, this is the dumbest woman alive.

So yeah, dental insurance: worth it or no?

* Snapchat: UGH. I am such a lost cause with that mess. More like SnapSUCK. I put it on my phone over a month ago, and tried to figure it out over a month ago, and gave up over a month ago. Yet that little yellow ghost taunts me everyday. I don’t GET IT. Waaaah. What’s the point? You can’t interact, you can’t leave comments, you can’t like anything. I don’t even know how to FOLLOW someone. I feel like the app itself is such a disaster. So busy, so confusing. I hate it. Yet I feel like everyone is obsessed with it. Doesn’t the photo disappear after ten seconds or something? How is that fun? Do you just have to stare at your phone all day long to catch a photo? Because, dudes. I cannot do that. My head is in a toddler butt all day. I’m not bitter! Just baffled at why everyone is so madly in love with it. Tell you what, if you can walk me through how to follow someone, how to post something, and what I actually DO, I’ll try it.

So yeah, Snapchat, worth it or no?

* A Deadly Adoption: Okay, it’s Will Ferrell and Kristen Wiig. Two of the world’s greatest comedic geniuses. Yet I’ve heard this movie is sooooo not a parody. Straight up Lifetime drama. No jokes. All straight. All serious. What is this?! Is it at least a tiny bit funny? Little. . . snicker here and there? Have you seen it? Is it bizarre to watch Will and Kristen all somber and earnest? I heard that making a Lifetime movie was on Will’s bucket list, so that’s why he did it. I’m dying (no pun) to see it, but will I be weirded out too much? I mean, is the movie at least entertaining?

So yeah, A Deadly Adoption, worth it or no?

Friday Flotsam / Bev Cooks

Anybody remember this old blue flower trick? Ten points to the first person who can tell me what I did! The winner gets the same price as the winner who guessed the Dilly Bar quiz. I’ll be in touch as soon as I figure out . . . what that prize . . . is.

Friday Flotsam / Bev Cooks

Weekend plans? We’re hosting a little cookout tonight with some of our best pals. Burgers, fries and homemade cherry ice cream! (and all the rosé)

I feel like this post was one of my wordiest ever. Sorry ’bout dat.

. . .Okay I’m POSITIVE it was coffee grounds.


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29 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. Jennifer C. July 24, 2015 at 7:52 am #
    Food coloring in the water!
  2. Morgan S. July 24, 2015 at 7:52 am #
    I'm so sorry for you guys and for Aaron. I've been there. And it's no fun. However, like you said, it is the PERFECT time to re-evaluate and re-configure and in the long run, he may be happier/better off! :) Keep your head up! Also, "How do we know the dog food is good?.... WHO TASTES IT!?!!"
  3. Patti July 24, 2015 at 8:12 am #
    Drop the dental for now. You will need it much more later, like when wisdom teeth need to come out. Space cleanings out to once a year(or longer) and floss! I've been where you are with the husband out of work..and it was with two in college and major panic attacks ensued. I can assure you that panicking didn't help at all, so stay calm and know it will work out. It really will.
  4. Mo @Luckyrhino July 24, 2015 at 8:19 am #
    I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s job. But you guys are such creative, positive people that only good things can be headed your way. Dental Insurance: Through genetics and no fault of my own, I have teeth issues (tooth issues?). Even though my insurance is employer sponsored and covers all the preventive care of a family of four, I’m not sure if I was paying the full amount of the insurance the math would work out. It caps out at about $1,800/yr and then I have to cover all the rest. So I guess it would depend on what you expect to spend vs premium. The babies/sheet changing helpers are so far away from braces that I’d be inclined to vote “not worth it”. I don’t know what happens under health insurance if you fall on your face. Probably depends on the terms of that plan. Snapchat: I’m too old, do not understand it. A Deadly Adoption: We watched it in parts on vacation with multiple families in Michigan City – had to keep pausing as kiddos came in the room. So I saw about ten minutes of each of the beginning, middle and end (end is totally worth it for the climactic scene and bizarre last scene). And more fun to watch with others. It strikes me as a bucket list, look-what-we-can-do type of thing. It is played straight with just the teensiest bit of a wink (really Will Farrell, dressed in beard and sweater like the SNL Lovers sketch). I don’t know that I would have sat and watched the whole thing, but in parts it was worth gawking at. Have a nice weekend.
  5. Jennifer Henderson Harp July 24, 2015 at 8:50 am #
    Our dental insurance was not worth it til our kid got teeth and started eating sweets, so we have skipped it and self-paid for the last 10 years. We are just now getting it again because someone eats too many lollipops.
  6. nicole @ I am a Honey Bee July 24, 2015 at 8:50 am #
    I'm sorry about your husband loosing his job :-( Thankfully I haven't had any major dental issues but my husband has a mess of them from impacted teeth (canines) to bridges and invisalign and blah blah blah. I'm for having dental insurance as we need it for me, him (he is doubled up on his own plan and mine through my job) and our daughter. She had her first cleaning before 18 months. It was to introduce her to the process of going every 6 months and to get her front teeth cleaned as she is on an iron supplement that stains her them, even with brushing 3x a day. I also don't understand snapchat. I have it, I'm trying to understand it, but I just don't. It confuses me. I feel the same exact way as you.
  7. Laura (Blogging Over Thyme) July 24, 2015 at 8:55 am #
    Oh no. I'm so sorry to hear that. As far as dental insurance goes, I *think* if got into an accident and had serious teeth issues, it wouldn't be covered under your health insurance. I only say this because I had the same concern last year when I left my full-time job and had to start paying for my own stuff. Also, SnapChat! You can save your photos/videos to your story and it can be viewed for 24 hours! Maybe watch this video? It's not great, but it does the trick.
  8. jessica July 24, 2015 at 9:32 am #
    I'm going to go ahead and tackle the real pressing question here - Deadly Adoption. (I kid, I kid.) But for real, don't waste your time. I had such high hopes for this and it was just another Lifetime movie, and the pregnant girl looked way too good to be pregnant, which was depressing to me as I am not currently one of those "all boobs and teeny bump" pregnant women. Actually bailed before it was even over. Sad face.
  9. Leslie Perlera July 24, 2015 at 9:34 am #
    Snapchat is like texting, but with pictures (you wouldn't want to save all your texts, right?). You're not supposed to send curated/perfectly staged pictures. You add people by their username or phone number and then you can snap each other little updates; like what you're currently eating or doing. If you want all your followers to see something/if you take a picture of something particularly interesting or eye-catching, then you can post it to your "My Story," where people can view it for 24 hours. And other people can screenshot your pic if they want to keep it forever (Snapchat notifies you when people do that).
  10. Mandee McNew July 24, 2015 at 9:46 am #
    What's your rosé of the moment??
    • Bev Weidner July 24, 2015 at 11:56 am #
      WELL, I've been drinking all of it! But tonight we're having this Zoe. I thiiiink I've had it before. It's a little richer. But still refreshing!
  11. erin July 24, 2015 at 9:59 am #
    Sorry for the stress - I've been there. But, it's all going to be all right. You're right - Aaron is wicked-wonderful and so are you. Something even better is on its way to you. Hang in there! LOVE.
  12. Emily July 24, 2015 at 10:20 am #
    Blue food coloring in the water? Am I right? Maybe not since only one flower is blue...oh well.. I don't get Snapchat either. I feel like it was made for people born after 1997 of which I am not one. So I'll continue to text and send pictures the old fashioned actual text messages. As for the major life change...chin up. I would tell you that when one door closes another opens an all that garbage but that doesn't really help you pay the bills. So instead I will say that you and Aaron both seem to be wonderful and wonderfully talented people and new opportunities will come your way. So hang in there...and when hanging in there is too hard drink more rosé...responsibly, of course.
  13. Tana July 24, 2015 at 10:22 am #
    Bev, I'm an insurance agent in CA. Based on the cost of dental insurance here in CA and the payout benefits, I would suggest you put the money you pay in premiums every month in to a savings account and drop the coverage. IMO.
  14. Phyllis July 24, 2015 at 10:25 am #
    I can answer the dental accident question. I fell on the rocks 4 years ago and broke out all but two half teeth of the front 6 teeth. In the last 4 years, I have had two dental surgeries, a bridge to cover all the front and two different partials. Implants and bridges would be much better, but even with dental insurance, i can't come up with the extra 10,000+ that it would cost, so I wear an annoying partial. I am blessed with a dentist who did NOT CHARGE me for a bunch of things because I've been in their practice for 12 years and they are truly amazing. Out of pocket has been about 2500.00 a year on top of the gifts of time and 2000.00 a year.
  15. Andrea @ This Knitted Life July 24, 2015 at 10:45 am #
    The watercolor is gorgeous. You did it? Dental insurance is a major NO. I researched for similar reasons last year. The annual max most policies pay after a deductible wouldn't even cover anything like a crown or root canal anyway. Just brush and floss. A lot. Good luck with the next chapter! Scary and exciting, but only good things to come.
  16. TheOtherJennifer July 24, 2015 at 11:05 am #
    been there, done will all work out. Brush, floss, ACT, self maintain. Thinking positive thoughts!
  17. Dee @ The Kitchen Snob July 24, 2015 at 11:36 am #
    So sorry to hear about the hub's job. Snapchat - I don't get it. Sure, it's like texts but you can always reread a text. Those videos you only get 1 shot at looking at them. What if a bee flies at your head right at the moment you press play? Then you're screwed because you can't watch the video again AND you might have been stung. It's a lose-lose. Dental insurance - My vote is no insurance. We have it though. I have a front tooth that needs to be pulled out. FRONT! Lord help me. And I need an implant with crown. Insurance won't cover any of it. Medical insurance won't cover it either. This is happening next week so if it seems like I'm lisping on my blog, that's why.
  18. Gaye July 24, 2015 at 12:13 pm #
    I used to make a rainbow of carnations with food colour when I was a kid. Burgers and rose sound great. OK, maybe a beer in there.
  19. Krissy Allori {self proclaimed foodie} July 24, 2015 at 12:39 pm #
    I'm super duper sorry to hear about the layoff... but I'm thinking its a sign you should pick up and move to Portland!
  20. Joy July 24, 2015 at 1:12 pm #
    Just put food coloring in the dilly bar water.... for the prize.
  21. claire @the realistic nutritionist July 24, 2015 at 1:24 pm #
  22. Heather || Heather's Dish July 24, 2015 at 2:24 pm #
    I'm so with you on the Snapchat thing. I know it makes me sound ancient, but the last thing I need is another social media channel to obsess about. When does anyone have time to live life these days?! Grandma. Just call me Grandma.
  23. Steph July 24, 2015 at 5:02 pm #
    Sorry for the added stress and really hope your husbands freelance work skyrockets! If it was me with the dental, I'd contact my medical insurance provider and find out what if anything is covered. Then analyze the cost of premiums and actual coverage amounts and see if it's worth it. Not all insurances are equal and some have very poor coverage to begin with. I'd also look into independent dental insurance premium cost and coverage to compare to cobra. That's my two cents. Wishing you and yours loads of success and less worry.
  24. Rachel July 25, 2015 at 8:31 am #
    If you're looking for a Twitter feed to peruse, check out the "Seinfeld today" account. It makes me wish they were still making episodes like no other. I think I read once that Larry David didn't care for it, but it still hasn't kept me from loving it.
  25. Leah July 27, 2015 at 12:39 pm #
    I actually have an answer to a question you DIDN'T ask - the bar in your dream?? I was in Dublin last year, and it sounds JUST like the Temple Bar. There is one section inside that feels like you are OUTSIDE. Plants everywhere on the ceiling, and drinks a flowin. It 'twas grand! Best of luck to you and your family.
  26. Abby July 27, 2015 at 7:03 pm #
    So sorry about your life difficulties right now! My husband was laid off last year and is still looking for reliable work. You guys can make it! As an added bonus, we both lost a couple pounds because the first things to go from the budget were our nightcaps and eating out :) Snapchat is fun! I'm 29 years old and love it. I feel like it's a lot more informal than posting on Facebook or Instagram because the photos are gone after 10 seconds. So you can be more silly with it. For example, when my friends send me selfies i like to screen shot them, draw a mustache on their face and send it back. All the bloggers I follow are iPhone users and I assume you are too? I'm an android user otherwise I could tell you how to use it. You could ask Jessica over at howsweeteats- she's the only blogger I am following on Snapchat at the moment. Good luck to you!
  27. Liz A August 3, 2015 at 2:25 pm #
    SO sorry to hear about your husband! Been there as well, a few times in the past few years. Glad you're staying positive and also that he is able to freelance. That's great! XO
  28. Marissa August 5, 2015 at 10:02 pm #
    Sorry in advance for the lengthy comment. I agree with all of the NO to dental insurance responses. I work for a non-profit that offers short term loans to help folks pay for medical expenses. We deal primarily with people needing dental work and hearing aids. My boss's sister and a few board members are dentists. We just discussed last week that dental insurance is NOT truly insurance. They all have a cap. $1,000 maybe $1,500 per year is all you are allowed. So if one of you needed extensive work that was above and beyond the limit, you're paying out of pocket. A dentist said it was a basically a "scam" and not worth it. A person with dental insurance could still need to borrow thousands of dollars for dentures, a bridge, extractions (oh my). I have been paying out of pocket for years for my cleanings and I believe I have one filling. Maybe $200 for both at one time. Not totally outrageous. I feel that's your best bet. My husband has been laid off since March so I know that struggle (minus the sweet baby angels). Good luck and keep that wonderful sense of humor! When you're not breathing into a paper bag and rocking back and forth in a corner, of course. ;)

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