Friday Flotsam

Frrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrwelcome back! To Flotsam that is. We’re back. Back at it. Swinging bats. Just kidding I don’t know what that means.

But do you want to know what I really really want? I’ll tell ya what I want, what I really really want.

I need new pajamas. New PJs for 2024! I’ve said this for eons, but I must upgrade my pj game. I’m telling you though, by the end of the day when it’s time to change, I just don’t give an ish, and will put on a ziplock bag if I have to.

But this is what I want. I want striped pajamas like Kathleen Kelly in You’ve Got Mail. THOSE. I want those. Exactly those.

You know the scene when Tom Hanks brings her flowers because she has a cold and she tries to shoo him away at her little brass voice doorbell thingy through her muffled voice. And he slides through the open door and zips up the stairs and appears at her peephole with the flowers and she freaks out and throws on a trench coat over her pjs (which was brilliant, Kathleen.) and eventually lets him in. THOSE.

And then have you ever noticed how she does nothing during the entire scene but move the vase (vahse) of daisies around that Tom gives her? I love that detail. I just love it. She’s keeping herself busy but it has something do with him. Just moves the vase (vahse) around from room to room. Takes the vase (vahse) with her to bed even! It’s genius. And I loved the trench.

But I really loved the pjs.

Two piece, cotton, old school, striped. Where can I get these??? I might even put a trench over them and carry a vase (vahse) of daisies around. You watch me.

You know what else I want to get into this year? Don’t laugh.

Mary Oliver.

I know painfully little about Mary Oliver and her work and I’m ashamed. It’s sort of the same feeling I had when Joan Didion passed away a while back and I realized I knew very little about her. So I bought one of her books, watched her doc, scoured various articles about her home and her style and her life and her everything.

Well that’s where I am with Mary Oliver. I’m not overly into poetry, but I’m always surprisingly touched when I read it, given my natural sarcastic slant in life.

I did find Dog Songs at a local used bookstore over the holidays, but I have yet to sit down and spend any proper time with it. I think once I get my striped pjs I’ll cozy down with a pipe and Mozart and get in that mess.

My question is, are you into Mary? Is there some place I should start? A documentary? A specific book? I do plan on listening to Wild and Precious soon(ish).

Tell me what you know about her, and how I should embark on my emotional education.


It’s going to be my word for the new year. Unbothered. Landon mentioned the word recently in a video and it struck like a harmonious chime. Like a vibration. Unbothered.

This may surprise you, but I do get bothered by certain things. (why are you looking at me like that?)

But you know what, I’m going to do my best to remain unbothered by the little things. Things that don’t affect me or change my orbit or the world. Let’s stay unbothered.

I mean sure, mice are eating through the wires in my minivan and I think I possibly have the right to be at least a little bit bothered by that, but the rest? Naw, unbothered. I’m taking that vibe into the new year.

That and a hugely wavy shag for winter.

(I do want to kill all mice though. Mice and bunnies. Mice in my car and bunnies in my garden.)

Sorry to get murdery all of a sudden.


Is there a way to log your podcast journey? You know, like Goodreads but for podcasts? I’m sure I could ask Google, but you’re cuter.

Weekend plans??

It’s Will and Nat’s TENTH BIRTHDAY tomorrow! Which is just bananas to me. And my jowls. We have a little sleepover for Nat and a few friends tomorrow night (complete with boba tea, axolotl slap bracelets, butter noodles and a Taylor Swift dance party. hold me.) And for Will a mall party on Sunday with a few of his friends (complete with the food court, Super Mario slap bracelets and the vintage arcade. hold Aaron.) Sunday night we’ll crash through February. (after we watch Taylor at the Golden Globes, natch.)

From this weeeeeek! MUSIC. Your mixtape. It’s really good so I hope you can marinate in that for a bit this month. And then we discuss the books we read in 2023! Come join the chat.

Okay, striped cotton pjs and Mary. Let’s do this.

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14 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. Rebekah Johnson January 5, 2024 at 8:37 am #
    I’m super intrigued by the unbothered concept!! Can we discuss more in ig stories!?
  2. Rebekah S January 5, 2024 at 9:02 am #
    Now I need those pajamas. You have to share a link if you’re successful in your search.
  3. Maria H January 5, 2024 at 9:23 am #
    I've been into Mary for many years. She got me into other poetry that is similarly accessible, like Billy Collins. Mary really forces you to slow down and appreciate the natural world around you for the miracle that it is. She really meditates on the rhythms of living things, the seasons, the simple pleasures of a flower, the wind in your hair or a good tree. Her books are all short and I find that I read a few poems, get lost in thought, read a few more and repeat, with a big mug of tea in hand. If you can read her while in nature it's even better. I'd start with Red Bird or Evidence or Why I Wake Early. Keep us posted on your journey!
  4. Kim January 5, 2024 at 9:46 am #
    Printfresh makes my favorite pajamas EVER. They’re pricy but wonderful and they wear forever. Tons of fun prints, gorgeous cotton, wash wonderfully.
  5. Cat January 5, 2024 at 10:12 am #
    JCrew for the PJs! They are the best.
  6. Shannon January 5, 2024 at 10:13 am #
    Totally into Mary Oliver. Check out American Primitive. Amazing.
  7. Chelsea January 5, 2024 at 10:45 am #
    You just always make it feel like Friday! Your writing makes me happier. Enjoy those kiddos' birthdays and let us know when you find the striped PJs!
  8. Jane George January 5, 2024 at 10:53 am #
    I would be happy to join your mice extermination team! Little buggers.
  9. Susan January 6, 2024 at 6:05 pm #
    Striped pj's are classic. Check out Gap brand. Much cheaper than ones I've seen at Dillard's and Printfresh.
  10. Adriana January 6, 2024 at 8:39 pm #
    I do not have experience with this brand but these look similar
  11. Adriana January 6, 2024 at 8:42 pm #
    oh they are also available at nordstrom
  12. Adriana January 6, 2024 at 8:55 pm #
    Ok last options: and J.Crew Also- if goodreads for podcast does not exist, can someone please get on that?
  13. Erica January 8, 2024 at 1:31 pm #
    Mary Oliver poetry has become a daily "practice" for me... there is no one like her that I've found. The collection "Devotions" is a great one to purchase, as it's a big collection from years of her work. Enjoy!! :)
  14. Wairds February 3, 2024 at 8:25 pm #
    Let's scour the internet together! Stripes are key, but fabric, fit, and comfort are crucial. We need PJs that feel like a warm hug but still let you answer the door with confidence (Traffic Jam 3D).

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