Friday Flotsam


What kind of retinol do you use?

Like at night. What brand? What percentage? What formula? What voodoo potion of yesterlore of the ancient tales of yonder? Is that the way you say it?

I ask because I was in the middle of a little pumpkin enzyme facial yesterday, and the lady goes, “Honey when was the last time you used retinol at night?” And I was like, “Oh. Right. Yes. I used it recently. I use it all the time. I. . . it was . . . it’s on the . . . I need to check the . . .”

“So it’s been a while?”

“How did you know?”

So I got home and checked all the little amber bottles and droppers and serums that I use on the reg and I forgot all about retinol! And it’s been a while since I’ve used it. Couldn’t even tell you what brand. Ordinary? Maybe? Maybe it was more medical grade, I have no idea.

She mentioned the words “aging” and “barrier” and “self worth” and “how dare you” so here we are.

I need get back into it so tell me what you use!

Cauldron sold separately?

I need to get something off my chest.

And it might be offensive to some under the age of 40 or 35 or 30 or 45 or 33 or 28 or 39.

But it needs to be said. So I’ll say it.

I cannot with these lug-a-mug thick-soled shoes and boots. Why is this the trend?! Why do we need to look like we’re walking on a three-story building? We already did this in the late ’90s and no one liked it then. Not one person.

And I’ll even include Taylor in this. I’m fully prepared to include her. She wears a lot of thick soled boots and I just think it’s so silly looking. She can get away with it, yes of course, but it’s still a no for me, dog.

I’ve been on the search for some winter boots that aren’t overly rugged but also not overly chic. Sturdy but good looking. Stylish but not runway. And the amount of thick-soled nonsense makes me want to scream.

But this is coming from someone who needs retinol at night, so…

Speaking of Taylor OMG 1989 TV! What do we think? Are we obsessed? Can we not get enough of the vault tracks? Don’t we think they have a Midnights vibe? Is this not the best day ever? The answer is yes.

I got up early this morning and went straight to Out of the Woods and teared up over the steam from my Chemex coffeemaker. It’s soooooo good. Her voice, the vibe, the subtle changes, just amazing.

The vault tracks are killing me. “Slut!” is SUCH a vibe. (sorry, mom) I also really love Is It Over Now? I plan on rotating the vault songs all day and letting them create a new me. No apology necessary.

Last weekend my friend Anna and I were having post-race celebratory drinks (oh! by the way! I finished the half marathon in two hours and two minutes and was soooooo proud of myself. Goal = met and exceeded.) and we got to giggling about something so silly and she was like, “You have to write about this in Flotsam!” and I was like, “DONE. Omg, hilarious, yes.”

But we cannot for the life of us remember what it was!! HAHAHAHASDKFHSAFHAHAHAHAHA.

It had to do with something that we don’t need. Like wisdom teeth. And a pancreas.

Although I think we need that. Don’t we need that? Appendix! We don’t need that.

But there’s something else that we don’t need and it came up in convo because it had to do with that very moment so you think we’d remember but it’s gone! BAAHAHHAAHHAHA.

I’m the only one laughing, aren’t I? (Anna’s laughing, too.)

What IS it?! You have to help us. What do we just not need? Besides thick-soled boots and the house of representatives.

You help us fill in the blank space (ha) and then when we figure it out I’ll come back and tell this story again. But the way it was supposed to be. I’m LOLing so hard right now.

Wait did you really just x out??

Weekend plans?

We’re expecting SNOW on Sunday. Which, okay I’m in! But buh-buy to the garden. I plan on viciously cutting all the zinnias along the fence today and making 13 kazillion bouquets around the house. And it’s officially the Halloween kickoff era! Tonight’s Trunk or Treat, tomorrow two soccer games and a movie night downstairs with kiddo friends and drinks fireside, Sunday we’ll carve our pumpkins (inside) while the snow falls and the Chiefs play and a curry simmers. Can’t hate it, really.

From this week! Baked Brie with Pecans and Rosemary. A MUST for your next get together. Or just you alone in a dark locked bathroom. And the video for ya. And we also have a Sort-Of Creamy Chicken Noodle Soup! Don’t ask. Just get in it. And the video!

Okay we have to wrap our faces around retinol. Give me the goods.

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33 Responses to Friday Flotsam

  1. Susan October 27, 2023 at 8:34 am #
    Blundstone boots. Differin gel. Congrats on your big run!. Ummmm…..we don’t need fabric softener????
    • Bev Weidner October 27, 2023 at 8:36 am #
      See I have blundstone boots! This year they feel clunky and rugged. Not digging. Oh I looooove fabric softener! Hahaha!
  2. Dawne October 27, 2023 at 8:54 am #
    I also use the differin gel, like it much better than the liquids. And spleen, we can live without our spleen. Is that what the organ you're looking to remove? lol
  3. Jenn P October 27, 2023 at 8:57 am #
    The Luna Oil from Sunday Riley or the Shani Darden one, but the Luna Oil is lovely and pretty. I just informed my husband that we will listening to 1989 in the car the entire hour roundtrip to Target today, I will not be taking questions at this time. I CANNOT WAIT. It snowed here last night and I expect it to be melted by this afternoon, but it's lovely right now.
  4. Nan October 27, 2023 at 8:59 am #
    Thoughts on Thursdays boots? Laces or no? Toms (believe it or not)? Ariat? Banana republic knockoffs? I’ve been staring at boots for over a year now and don’t know what to do. I wish they could be preppy and on trend. Or look cute w both pants and skirts but maybe that’s asking for too much.
  5. Stephanie October 27, 2023 at 9:08 am #
    Korkease, Børn, and Clark’s still make excellent classic styles (just look past the gross trendy options)!
  6. Anonymous October 27, 2023 at 9:18 am #
    Gall bladder?? Hahah loling that I just typed that.
  7. Jennifer October 27, 2023 at 10:02 am #
    Kiehl’s retinol skin renewing serum. Doesn’t dry my skin and leaves my skin glowy and moisturized. Totally changed my skin!
  8. Janel October 27, 2023 at 10:35 am #
    I use Skinceuticals retinol. Started with the .5 but now use the 1.0 a few times a week. On my second listen of 1989 TV as I work. I will play vault signs on repeat this afternoon. Agree they have a midnights vibe. I like them. Will likely love them by then end of the day. ❤️ I’m not ready for snow on Sunday. And I like snow.
  9. Sydney October 27, 2023 at 10:46 am #
    Bev I just need you to know that I love all your Taylor Swift thoughts and opinions. I would read a whole book of them. 1989 is such a bop! Congrats on a successful half marathon!
  10. Courtney October 27, 2023 at 10:48 am #
    I am with you on the boots! I hated them then and I hate them now. But I'm also over 40 and use the Ordinary retinol, lol. I love the look of Duckfeet boots, but they are pricey for sure.
  11. Andrea October 27, 2023 at 11:02 am #
  12. Whitney October 27, 2023 at 11:02 am #
    My dermatologist prescribed tretinoin .025% and I think it’s working for my 42 year old face. And maybe drying me out. Curious if there is something better.
    • Mary October 27, 2023 at 3:12 pm #
      Samesies. Your skin will look terrible for 6ish weeks and then super glowy. You just have to power through that first rough patch. And if you get it from a derm, it’s way cheaper than whatever you’d buy at ulta.
  13. Andrea October 27, 2023 at 11:04 am #
  14. Marissa October 27, 2023 at 11:04 am #
    Tonsils? Are tonsils the thing you don't need that you couldn't remember?
  15. Renae October 27, 2023 at 11:47 am #
    Gall bladder? Can;t wait for the retinol update...this 50 year old seriously needs one!
  16. Kelly October 27, 2023 at 11:56 am #
    Go to the dermatologist and get a prescription. So much more reasonably priced and they can help you through the different strengths.
  17. Lindsay October 27, 2023 at 12:20 pm #
    I don't know why anyone buys over the counter retinol when your derm can prescribe you tretinoin. Thank you CVS! Adjust the amount and frequency to work for your skin. It's around $70-$80/tube & you only need a pea-sized amount. Drying can happen (thanks winter!) but just slap a good oil on.
  18. DJ October 27, 2023 at 12:30 pm #
    Agency is an amazing retinol. It’s prescription strength. Send in a pic and a dermatologist determines your needs. Daughter (and I believe son-in-law) and I both use. Two thumbs up.
  19. ALOT October 27, 2023 at 1:21 pm #
    Have your PCP or dermatologist prescribe tretinoin. I don't bother with over the counter retinol. It is more expensive. I just go with a prescription. Check out Red Wing heritage boots and Birkenstock boots!
  20. beth October 27, 2023 at 1:31 pm #
    Curology or Agency. You get a formula for your skin which can (and should) contain retinol. Then you can stop worrying about all the serums b/c they are all in one formula you can use each night! Worth the Rx! Agency has more options for 'aging' while Curology focuses more on acne.
  21. Kristin October 27, 2023 at 2:22 pm #
    Your question made me realize that I never heard what in the world our uvula does for us, so I had to check that out. Apparently it secretes saliva and KEEPS FOOD AND BEVERAGES FROM GOING UP OUR NOSE WHEN WE SWALLOW, so I'm thinking we definitely need our uvulas. Not that I was planning on getting rid of mine.
  22. Dani October 27, 2023 at 2:37 pm #
    I’ve been using tretinoin 0.25 for over a year. However, even with a moisturizer applied prior I still experience somewhat dry skin. Thinking of going back to maelove or avene retrinal (not retinol).
  23. Dani October 27, 2023 at 2:41 pm #
    On tretinoin .025 for over a year, sorta over the constant struggle to counteract the dryness. Thinking of going back to avene or maelove retrinal (not retinol).
    • Theresa King October 27, 2023 at 8:04 pm #
      Can cause birth defects so absolutely don’t use if pregnant, planning to get pregnant or if you are of childbearing age without talking with your doctor and generally you’ll be advised to use 2 forms of birth control. Sorry, it’s known to cause birth defects and, yes, I am a doctor! LOL
  24. Kelly October 27, 2023 at 5:17 pm #
    I'm here for the retinol suggestions but wanted to say, I actually love lug sole boots. But not all the time. Have you seen the brand Thursday? I can't speak to their quality but they look really classic (all their styles). Good luck in the boot hunt!!! And retinol and thank you for the reminder my skin is SO dull. I know I need it!!
  25. Tish October 27, 2023 at 7:04 pm #
    Google this immediately: Mixed Makeup retinol. Look for the pretty YouTube lady 😂. She is knowledgeable, she is fair in her critiques, and she always gives options at different price points. She acts like a chemist and shares how most expensive products share ingredients with other more affordable brands and how you’re basically paying for marketing so … take thee to the interwebs and get your life dawwwwling. Every face is so different and depending on the strength, retinol can wreck yo stuff. (Cleaning up my language for you 😘)
  26. Theresa King October 27, 2023 at 7:54 pm #
    Agency is great. You answer a couple of questions on the website and upload 3 pics of your face from different angles. It’s an actual telehealth-type encounter and you get an actual prescription strength formula (tretinoin) sent to you along with cleanser and moisturizer. So far so good!
  27. Liz October 28, 2023 at 1:49 pm #
    Congrats on your 1/2!!!! You ran that fast!!!
  28. Erica October 30, 2023 at 12:58 pm #
    Sunday Riley's A+ retinoid serum is the one I keep coming back to. I have SUPER dry skin, and prescription tretinoin destroyed my skin. :) I've used the Maelove serum as well, but the Sunday Riley one is the best, in my humble opinion! And it doesn't dry out my skin. For boots- Nisolo!
  29. jessica October 31, 2023 at 1:08 pm #
    Frye boots for the win!
  30. Becky November 2, 2023 at 2:05 pm #
    Awesome time for your race! What half marathon training plan did you use? I have one coming up at the beginning of February and didn't love the plan I used last year - I feel like I over trained and my legs were always tired so looking for a new one!

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